An exercise in self-love on Valentine’s Day.

Happy Valentine’s Day.

I’ve got a little something for you.

A token of appreciation on this day of love if you will.

Whether you’re single, someone’s booty call, happily married, normally married, in a relationship, or dating but haven’t made it Facebook official yet, there’s one thing we all need, self-acceptance.

In life, we all go through difficult experiences, face fears and regrets, and sometimes (or often), are overly hard on ourselves. 

The exercise I’d like to share with you today guides you towards a more compassionate and understanding relationship with yourself.

The goal is simple: I want to encourage you to write a letter to yourself, a letter filled with kindness and understanding. In this letter, you’ll talk about the things that have been bothering you and making you feel sad, anxious, or uncomfortable.

But here’s the important part: as you write about these challenging experiences, you won’t be criticizing yourself. Instead, you’ll offer yourself words of comfort and acceptance. 

You’ll acknowledge that it’s okay to feel this way, that your feelings are valid, and, most importantly, that they don’t define who you are or what your future holds.

By the end of the exercise, you’ll make a promise to yourself – a promise to continue working on this journey of self-acceptance. You’ll remind yourself of your own strength and resilience, and how you can grow from these experiences.

So find a quiet spot and set aside some time free from distraction where you can give 100% focus. Then grab a pen and paper, or phone/tablet/computer and let’s get into it. 

Reflect on Your Experience.

Take a moment to think about the thoughts, emotions, or memories that have been bothering you. 

These might be things like worries, regrets, self-criticisms, or any challenging experiences you’ve been through. It’s okay if these thoughts are difficult – this exercise is here to help you work through them.

Write Your Letter

Begin your letter with a warm and compassionate greeting to yourself. You can use phrases like “Dear [Your Name],”. This sets the tone for a caring and understanding conversation with yourself.

Acknowledge Your Experience

Now, start writing about the experiences you’re struggling to accept. Be honest and open with yourself. 

Describe these experiences as they are and how they make you feel. 

It’s essential to express your emotions – don’t hold back.

Offer Compassion and Understanding

As you write about each experience, offer words of compassion and understanding to yourself. 

Imagine you’re talking to a friend who is going through a tough time. 

Let yourself know that it’s okay to feel this way, and these experiences don’t define your worth or future. 

Be kind to yourself in your words.

Express Commitment to Acceptance

Towards the end of your letter, express a commitment to continue working on self-acceptance. You might include affirmations or intentions for approaching these challenging experiences moving forward. 

Think about what steps you can take to nurture your emotional well-being.

Close with Kindness

End your letter with a statement of self-compassion and encouragement. Remind yourself of your inner strength and resilience. It’s like giving yourself a heartfelt pep talk to boost your confidence and self-esteem.

It’s a very simple exercise, but depending on what you’re dealing with, it may not be easy. 

Often, the more uncomfortable we find something, the more important it is we work through it.  

So give it a go. 

The better and healthier the relationship we have with ourselves, the better and 

healthier the relationship we can have with others.

Whatever you do today, celebrating or not, I hope it makes you happy. 

Thanks for reading this, I appreciate it. 

Karl. 

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